Divorce
This section addresses neither psychological nor socio-economic marital difficulties. If you are dealing with such concerns, it is advisable to consult a marriage counselor.
One of the main goals of Shaitan is to prevent and break marriages. when the marriage is falling apart, it could be because of Sihr, Ayn, or Creepy sex Jinn. When spouses find themselves repulsed from each other or arguing all the time, they tend to think it is Sihr (Black Magic) that is destroying their marriage. It could be Sihr but it could also be Ayn or Creepy Jinn.
The involvement of what is referred to as Creepy Jinn could lead to divorce. Creepy sex Jinn enter the body when individuals dress seductively, engage in dancing, or listen to music. This particular type of Jinn endeavors to cause marital discord by provoking agitation or diminishing stress tolerance between spouses, leading to divorce.
♦ Jabir reported that Prophet Muhammed (ﷺ) said: Iblis (the father of all Sheitan) places his throne upon water; he sends his agents (demons to lure humans); the closest to him are those who create the worst tribulations. One of them came and said, “I did so and so.” And Iblis said: “You have done nothing.” Then one amongst them came and said: “I did not let him (a human) go until I broke what is between him and his wife.” Iblis brought this Sheitan near him and said: “You have done well.”
Some individuals contemplate whether they should pursue divorce when they feel their marriage is being targeted by Sihr or Shaitan. This is akin to someone resorting to extreme measures, like cutting off their head due to a migraine, in the hope of reattaching it once the pain subsides. If Shaitan perceives this individual as weak and compliant, it may exploit and manipulate them further. The effects of Sihr-induced divorce don’t cease with the dissolution of the marriage; even after divorce, Shaitan may continue to obstruct any future attempts at remarriage.
Do not argue!!
Remain silent when your spouse (husband or wife) is agitated. You can either be right or be married.
♦ Prophet Muhammed said: “Whoever is silent is saved.”
♦ Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “I guarantee a house in Jannah (paradise) for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners.” [Abu Dawud].
Infidelity nightmares
Shaitan can infiltrate a person’s dreams, causing them to experience disturbing nightmares. Numerous couples have separated due to dreams filled with themes of betrayal and infidelity. Some individuals are convinced of their spouse’s unfaithfulness solely based on these vivid, recurring dreams. This tactic is one of the ways Shaitan aims to manipulate us. By driving wedges between loved ones, Shaitan finds it easier to target isolated individuals. It’s crucial to remember that the persistent nature of these nightmares does not confirm their reality.
Shaitan can have the following negative effect on spouses:
1- Makes spouses experience tightness in their chests and irritability toward one another. They feel like they can’t tolerate one another and they live in constant nagging.
2- Makes Spouses feel repulsed by one another emotionally and sexually. A husband for example could feel that all women are attractive except for his wife.
3- Plants skepticism and feeling of being cheated on by their spouse. They feel constantly that their spouse is with someone else. Out of ignorance, some spouses visit psychics who claim to be able to set up love ties between the spouse and prevent him from cheating which is only done through Black Magic.
4- Bring up to the mind thoughts of divorce repeatedly.
♦ Prophet Muhammed said, “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce when it is not an absolute necessity, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.” Authentic
Treatment: Treatment should be applied to both spouses even if one of them is asymptomatic because Shaitan attack couples as a set.
Besides morning and Evening Athkar and reciting Surat Al-Baqarah, Spouses should resort to reciting Surat Al-Nas and Al-Falaq repeatedly daily. It is suggested to consider reciting or listening to each Surah about 100 times in the morning and 100 times in the evening.
Recite (or listen to the recitation and translation on Quranful.com) the Al-Baqarah Chapter especially verses 220 to 210, Al-Nur (Al-Noor) Chapter especially the first 33 verses, and Yusuf Chapter especially verses 22 to 34.
⇒ This Quranic verse mentioned below, as an example, is highly effective in countering satanic-induced marital discord. Repeatedly read and listen to this verse. Recite it over water and then drink and bathe with it. Additionally, recite it over olive oil and use the oil to anoint your entire body.
Allah Says in Quran Surat Al-Baqarah, verse 102:
“They instead followed the magic promoted by the devils during the reign of Solomon. Never did Solomon disbelieve, rather the devils disbelieve. They taught magic to the people, along with
what had been revealed to the two angels, Hârût and Mârût, in Babylon? [38] The two angels never taught anyone without saying, “We are only a test for you, so do not abandon your faith.” Yet
people learned ˹magic˺ that caused a rift ˹even˺ between husband and wife; although their magic could not harm anyone except by Allah’s Will. They learned what harmed them and did not benefit
them—although they already knew that whoever buys into magic would have no share in the Hereafter. Miserable indeed was the price for which they sold their souls if only they knew!”
How to wash away Low Libido? Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder
(Strictly when related only to spiritual disorders and after being diagnosed and treated by a medical doctor or psychologist)
The ex-Grand Mufti of Saudi Arabia, Abd Al-Aziz Ibn Baz said that if a spouse experiences loss of sex drive because of a spiritual disorder, when unrelated to medical or psychological disorders, they should consider this recommendation:
Grind 7 whole fresh Sidr (Lote) leaves. Get a large water container. Do Ruqiah into this water. The water should be enough to both drink and shower with the remainder. This recipe, by the will of Allah, will clear the illness. Repeat this process a couple of times or even more if needed.
Recite the following verses over water, then drink it, and recite them over olive oil, then wipe your entire body with it:
Ayat Al-Korsi, Chapter Al-Kafirun, Chapter Al-Ikhlas, Chapter Al-Nas, Chapter Al-Falaq, Verse 102 of Al-Baqarah and these verses:
- Chapter Al-Araf
- Chapter Yunus
- Taha Chapter
69 Now throw down what is in your right hand—it will swallow what they have crafted. What they have crafted is only a magician’s trickery. But the magician will not succeed, no matter what he does.”
Treatment of Sexual Desire Disorders ex. Loss of sexual desire (when triggered by Evil Eye or Evil Magic, absent of medical reasons)
- Always check first with your medical doctor (Gynecologist, Urologist, Psychiatrist).
- Consider seeking Ruqyah, as it has proven effective in addressing low libido (when the condition is not triggered by medical or psychological reasons.)
Surah Al-Baqarah serves as a potent remedy for various spiritual afflictions, such as Sihr, Ayn, and Hasad, which can lead to divorce. With over four pages dedicated to marriage, divorce, and women, these verses establish guidelines and boundaries set by Allah for His servants. They act as a safeguard against the schemes of Shaitan aimed at causing marital discord. These verses convey that Allah is the ultimate authority; no one can disrupt or undermine a marriage because divine rules are in place to preserve it. - Pack Indian Costus powder in empty capsules and take 2 to 4 capsules a day but do not take them on an empty stomach or before bedtime.
- Have an open, candid conversation with your spouse. Explain to them how much you love them and how your lack of intimacy is temporarily out of your hand and that you are working on overcoming this. Try to compensate by sending flowers, writing love notes, and going together to dinner.
- Keep working on getting intimate with your spouse. Do not give up. You are getting rewarded by Allah for trying to get intimate with your spouse.♦ Prophet Muhammed on being asked whether a reward would be given for satisfying one’s passion, said, “Tell me; if he were to express his desire in something forbidden, would it not be a sin on his part? Similarly, if he were to express his desire in what Allah has permitted, he would get rewarded.”
- Bathe with Ruqiah water mixed with Sidr leaves. It is effective in treating erectile disorders triggered by spiritual disorders. (explained in the physical treatment section)
- Apply Ruqiah Olive Oil even on the genital areas of both spouses before intimacy. If olive oil is not available, the patient could substitute it with coconut oil and apply it as a lubricant during intimacy.
- Make Duaa (supplication to Allah) before intimacy.♦ Ibn ‘Abbas reported God’s messenger as saying that if anyone who seeks intimacy with their spouse says, “In the name of God. God, keep us away from the devil and keep the devil away from what you have provided us,” should a child be born to them thereby, no devil will ever harm it. (Bukhari & Muslim)
- Set the expectations with your spouse that It is okay to fail during intimacy.
- Steer clear of individuals who behave provocatively and serve as agents of the devil. They might possess more potential to harm your marriage than even Shaitan himself. For instance, consider a woman who encountered another at a gathering. The latter remarked, “My husband gifted me this brand new car for our anniversary. What did your husband get you for yours?” The woman felt shocked and embarrassed. Eventually, she underwent a divorce from her husband, whom she believed did not value her.
- Avoid socializing with couples. Women can maintain friendships with other women, and men can have friendships with other men. However, refrain from participating in group outings and dinners with other couples as they are considered Islamically prohibited. Such gatherings often lead to admiration and comparisons between spouses, resulting in dissatisfaction for both parties.
For example, a man might find his friend’s wife, who may be less attractive than his own wife, to be more appealing, and vice versa. If a wife perceives herself as less attractive, engaging, or witty, she should avoid such settings. Likewise, if a wife is more attractive, she should protect herself from envy and the evil eye by avoiding exposure in such situations.
♦ ‘Uqba b. ‘Amir reported God’s Messenger as saying, “Avoid going in where women are.” A man said, “Messenger of God, tell me about the relatives of a woman’s husband,” to which he replied, “The relatives of a woman’s husband are Death.”* *The word “Death” is used to indicate a strong prohibition, the idea being that they are a cause of temptation to a man’s wife. (Bukhari and Muslim.)
- Dress up modestly. Allah says in Quran in Al-Nur Chapter verse 31 (And tell the believing women to restrain their looks, and to guard their privates, and not display their beauty except what is apparent thereof, and to draw their coverings over their breasts, and not expose their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, what their right hands possess, their male attendants who have no sexual desires, or children who are not yet aware of the nakedness of women. And they should not strike their feet to draw attention to their hidden beauty. And repent to God, all of you believers, so that you may succeed.)
- Avoid Period Sex. It is forbidden, disgusting, and unhealthy. Additionally, something about blood in general and blood of menstruation attracts Shaitan.
Allah says in the Quran in Surat Al-Baqarah, verse 222 (And they ask you about menstruation: say, “It is harmful, so keep away from women during menstruation. And do not approach them until they have become pure. Once they have become pure, approach them in the way God has directed you.” God loves the repentant, and He loves those who keep clean.”) - Do not share with others how kind, beautiful, or nice your spouse is. Do not attract Evil Eye and Hasad to your life. Keep your blessing to yourself so you don’t lose it.
- Most patients who have Jinn harm, do not drink enough water and do not shower frequently. This negatively affects your spouse. Do not mask odors with perfumes, rather shower up.
- It’s important for both spouses to regularly shave the pubic hair.
- Foreplay is important especially to the inflicted party, husband or wife.
Erotic Deviations
It is advised that couples refrain from engaging in explicit sexual or erotic dialogue during intimacy, as this can lead to intrusive thoughts and potentially open the door to pornography consumption, fantasies involving other individuals, and the introduction of sex toys. Once sex toys are introduced into the bedroom, it can be challenging to revert to a more natural form of stimulation. It is appropriate for a husband to express his desires and appreciate aspects of his wife’s body. However, prolonged exposure to pornography among single men can potentially later dull their instinct to protect their spouse in a healthy jealous manner. This highlights the importance of getting married young to limit exposure to porn.
In general, it is advisable to limit fantasies during intimacy. Once imagination is unleashed, it can lead to thoughts that may grow and develop into persistent obsession, making them the sole source of pleasure. This can result in pressure to fulfill these fantasies through third parties.
Real-Life Example in an era where porn addiction impacts future husbands:
Shaitan are always present around us. Consider a case where a husband who had a long history of watching porn, jokingly tells his wife during intercourse, “You are a sex worker, and I will share you with others.” Shaitan hear this comment. Shaitan then gather around the husband and exert influence on him utilizing his vulnerability that he acquired by watching porn in his previous life. This could lead to extensive satanic whispers that motivate the husband to genuinely desire to offer his wife to others. Similarly, the Shaitan influence the wife, making her desire open relationships with others especially if she has been introduced to sexual stimulation devices. Eventually, a seemingly low-risk individual appears, and the husband and wife begin discussing him during their intimate moments. This ultimately leads to them inviting the individual into their relationship. Eventually spouses turn against each other, blaming each other and end their marriage with a sour divorce, scandals and lawsuits. They lose in both this life and in the hereafter.
How can I pray if I have long and heavy menstrual bleeding?
How can I pray to Allah to fortify myself, my kids, and my house when my period is too heavy and too long?
♦ Hamnah bint Jahsh narrated:
‘I had a very long and heavy menstrual bleeding. I went to the Prophet (Peace be upon him) to ask him what to do. He said, “This is a strike from Shaitan. So observe your menses for six to seven days, then perform Ghusl (shower) until you find that you are clear. Pray for twenty-four or twenty-three nights and days and fast, and that will suffice you. Do so every month just as other women count their menstrual cycle. (second solution) But if you are strong enough to delay the Dhuhr prayer and advance the Asr prayer, then make Ghusl (shower) when you are clear and combine the Dhuhr and the Asr prayers together; then delay the Maghrib prayer and advance the Isha prayer, and perform Ghusl (shower) and combine the two prayers, then do so. And perform Ghusl (shower) at dawn time and pray (Fajr). That is the more preferable way to me.”
[Reported by the five Imams except for An- Nasa’i. At-Tirmidhi graded it as Authentic narration].
Miscarriage
In the absence of obvious medical reasons, miscarriages are caused by Sihr, Evil Eye and Shaitan (Mas). Shaitan triggers disorders that lead to polyps and cysts in uterus to cause infertility. Infertility may lead to frustration and even divorce. This makes women an easier prey for the Shaitan.
A woman often experiences a sensation of impact in her uterus before a miscarriage. She may dream of a person or animal chasing and striking her back, side, or lower abdomen, or see a snake wrapping around and squeezing her abdomen. Following such dreams, a miscarriage may occur within a day or two, and sometimes the effects of beating or strangulation can be observed on the fetus’s body.
Treatment:
Start with the general Ruqyah program and the required Islamic lifestyle changes (explained in detail in separate sections of this website). Ruqyah is recited directly over the expecting mom and can also be self-administered by the patient. It is recited over olive oil to be applied to the lower back and abdomen, and over water for washing and also for drinking (preferably mixed with honey). Additionally, the water can be placed in a basin with enough to cover the entire body, allowing the person to sit in it for about a quarter of an hour. Sidr, salt, and alum can also be added to the water for enhanced effect. It is of utmost importance to adhere to the Islamic dress code for females. Recite twice a day the first 36 verses of Surah Maryam/ Chapter Mary in Quran.
Once pregnant, focus on morning, evening, and bedtime athkar. Listen to and recite Quran throughout the day and even during your sleep. Eat seven dates daily and drink milk. Mix Ruqyah water with a few drops of honey and drink it daily. Cover your belly with Ruqyah olive oil twice daily.
Masturbation (self stimulation/ self gratification)
Creepy sex Jinn are attracted by masturbation and constant self-observation using a selfie camera or a mirror. Do not let masturbation be a habit. Masturbation makes your Shaitan much stronger especially when performed while watching porn, while being uncovered, and while showering or bathing in the bathroom. Masturbation does not exactly relax you, it rather drains your energy. Energy is the bless of God that translates to success and accomplishments.
In addition to avoiding idle time, it is easier to manage our outputs, such as masturbation, by limiting inputs through the eyes (what we see) and the mouth (how much we eat).
♦ Prophet Muhammad said, “Young men, those of you who can support a wife should get married, for it helps you restrain your gaze and guard your chastity. But those who cannot should resort to fasting, as it curbs your desires.” Authentic in Muslim
When masturbation becomes a habit, one will have to feed this monster by recording in the brain arousing scenes throughout the day so that you can re-play these scenes during masturbation. This pushes one to look at what is forbidden, just to feed the imagination during masturbation. Yet masturbation can save someone from falling into the sin of adultery when someone is already in a situation
If masturbation is unavoidable due to addiction to the habit, please follow these guidelines:
1. Avoid using screens or media during the act.
2. Refrain from ever masturbating in the bathroom.
3. It is safer to masturbate in bed, covered by sheets, and use a disposable towel for fluid cleanup to ensure it does not contact anything else.
4. Keep private parts covered during the process, performing the act under your clothes.
5. Use the left hand, not the right hand.
This is an example of how the right side of the body is dignified in Islam.
♦ Prophet Muhammed said, “Do not touch your penis with your right hand while urinating and do not clean yourself after defecation with your right hand.” Authentic
6. Take a shower immediately afterward and avoid drinking water right away.
7. Engage in repentance and prayer, hoping not to return to the habit.
8. Throughout the process, avoid direct contact with your skin by using a barrier, and do not look at or expose yourself.
Some married men may watch porn and let their eyes wander to build sexual momentum to intercourse with their wives later. It is the same as masturbation but while using the spouse’s genitals for that purpose. However, this approach leads to many complications like not finding your spouse to be attractive, and Shaitan tempting spouses to contribute to the porn world by recording themselves or sharing their wives. The right approach Islamically is to starve your eyes and spirit sexually which makes your wife such a valuable treasure.
Bachelorette?
Spiritual disorders can prevent or delay marriage, trigger divorce after marriage, or cause a marriage to be miserable. It’s important to seek treatment. Focus on Ruqyah therapy throughout your life because Shaytan will keep monitoring you for a sinful moment that voids your protection so he can come back.
Consider these points when looking for a husband:
1- Express flexibility and break the barrier of singleness, even if divorce remains a possibility in the future. Sometimes, it’s easier to remarry as a divorcee or widow than to get married as a virgin. Seek marriage, even if the future spouse is older, you are a second wife, or they have less education or income.
Polygamy, where permitted by law, is the answer. Polygamy is not a comprise, it is rather our faith as practiced by our prophet and the mothers of the believers. Prophet Muhammad got married for the first time at the age of 25. His first wife, Khadijah, was 40 years old at the time.
However, do not marry the wrong person and then blame polygamy for divorce. A few points to consider when evaluating polygamy. Would you rather get married to someone who got married previously and succeeded or someone who failed his first marriage or could not even get married in the first place?
Do you know a number of men who live single for too long find it difficult to adapt to a life partner and get addicted to porn and masturbation? On the other hand, lots of women are too independent and appreciate less duties toward husband and toward the household in general. These women would fail as a wife but succeed as a second wife.
2- Do not compromise on the Islamic standards of your future husband. Ensure the prospective spouse earns lawful income, and is free from contagious diseases or spiritual disorders. They should be a committed Muslim who performs the 5 daily prayers and demonstrates kindness, good manners, and morals.
3- Make your search for a spouse known openly to others; there should be no awkwardness in this matter. Avoid watching episodes and movies as they often introduce new standards that can alter your natural values and perceptions of marriage. Instead, focus on learning from the life of our Prophet and his companions, as they should be our role model.
4- When faced with rude and nosy questions about why you haven’t married yet, it’s important to respond firmly and assertively to end the conversation awkwardly for the asker because Shaitan will capitalize on these situations later to make you feel depressed and alienated. Here’s a way to respond: “Why are you asking about my marital status?” This response sets a clear boundary and communicates that such questions are intrusive and unwelcome.
5- When you get invited for wedding parties be cautious of parties that mix men and women together, along with music, singing, nudity and dancing, as they cause subsequent troubles with Shaytan and Nazar (jealous eye). These parties displease Allah so do not participate in these exposure competitions, You are above that!!
6- No marriage is ever valid without the approval of your male guardian whether it is your first and second marriage. No marriage without witnesses. No marriage without public announcement. Do not fall into the ultimate sin of adultery thinking that you are married.
Do I have to tell my future spouse about my Spiritual Disorder?
It is better to get treated completely before getting engaged or married to anyone. Scholars explain that if your condition is curable, does not impact you in any visible manner, and does have an effect on your surroundings, safety, and people in your life cycle, then you do not have to share your condition with your future spouse. For example, if all your problems are expressed in the form of some light tingling in the feet and mild insomnia.
However, if you have a severe disorder that causes you to hurt yourself or the feelings of people around you, or affects the way you behave around people, your ability to bear kids, or your ability to get intimate with your spouse, then you must let your future spouse know upfront about your condition. If you do not let them know, then you have committed an act of dishonesty and cheating. You also must share your condition with your future spouse in case your spiritual disorder has played a role in you getting divorced previously.
When divorce is the better choice
If a spouse poses a threat to the safety of his family because of Evil Magic, refuses to accept treatment, and refuses to get on the straight path, then divorce is recommended. For example, a businessman who used to visit prostitution houses in Thailand found out that it is a common practice over there to take a liquid residue of their customers and use it for Evil Magic so he keeps coming again and spending money with them. After he got married, he could not stop these behaviors. The magic they created affected his wife. In this case, Divorce is the best choice.
Example, a wife who was advised by a Muslim scholar to seek divorce from her husband who threatened her life, she refused to end the relationship. Five years later she is back to the scholar listening to the same advice again.
Can spouses practice intimacy while listening to the Quran?
No, it is not permissible to listen to the Quran during intimacy as it would be an insult to the Quran.
Can Intimacy actions be recorded?
It may sound acceptable if the husband works remotely but it is actually wrong and forbidden. Do not record or videotape your spouse during intimacy. It attracts Shaitan and invites satanic whispers. It is also forbidden in Islam because if divorce ever occurs for whatever reason, you have already left forbidden material with a stranger.
If the husband views intimate videos of his wife while traveling, he may initially feel excitement but eventually become desensitized. This could lead him to seek out pornography. Should the wife attempt to be inventive by recording such videos, it could attract the attention of Jinn, and Shaitan may then insinuate to the husband that her excitement indicates infidelity.
Allah says in Quran: “O you who believe! Among your spouses and your children are enemies to you, so beware of them. But if you pardon, and overlook, and forgive—God is Forgiver and Merciful.” Al-Taghabun 14