Muslim Women Dress and Conduct Code

Now, let’s briefly discuss some actions that many females inadvertently engage in, actions that attract and reinforce satanic negative influences. These points are instrumental for both treatment and protection but are often overlooked in therapy discussions to prevent awkwardness. 

These requirements are specific to the therapy and are not general religious advice.

The unfortunate statistical reality is that a higher proportion of affected individuals are women. Lifestyle choices and dress codes significantly contribute to this issue. Therefore, it’s important to explore the guidance provided by the Creator for the protection and well-being of our beloved wives, sisters, and daughters.

Why aren’t my prayers for healing answered?

Scholar Al-Shafiee stated: When a person engages in forbidden actions, it initially feels difficult. Over time, it becomes easier, then familiar, then acceptable, and eventually desired. At this point, the sinner’s heart becomes entrenched in this sin, leading them to seek out other forbidden things.

Live a balanced life however, being balanced does not mean obeying God for some time and then forgetting about His commands later. For example, listening to the Quran and studying its meaning then voiding your protection by turning on the TV to watch a dance contest!! It is like someone who washed, ironed, and scented their white clothes and went to play in the mud. This is not a break from wrongdoings; rather, it is flipping the page and starting a new chapter of life.

Prophetic Warning:

The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “I looked into paradise and saw that the majority of its people were the poor, and I looked into the Hellfire and found that the majority of its people were women.” Authentic in Bukhari and Muslim


 What are the 3 harmful gazes that affect women?

Long and wide clothes protect women from 3 types of Eyes:

1- The Eyes of males. Every time a man looks at a woman who is not dressed accordingly, a sin is recorded in her book of bad deeds. If she is dressed seductively, then she is cursed by Allah Himself.

2- The Eyes of Other Women. When a female is not dressed modestly, she may attract the jealousy and evil eyes of other females. Additionally, she may incur God’s displeasure for being a bad role model. If another female imitates her immodesty, they both share the sins.

3- The Eyes of Jinn. Jinn live with us and around us even in our houses. They look, lust, and desire humans. In authentic narrations, Prophet Muhammed used to seek refuge in Allah against the eye of Jinn and Humans.

“O Prophet! Tell your wives, and your daughters, and the women of the believers, to lengthen their garments. That is more proper, so they will be recognized and not harassed. God is Forgiving and Merciful.” Al-Ahzab 59


Manicure

Manicure or even leftover nail polish voids all your prayers. This is why some women may say I pray and pray but nothing is working. Manicure has a cascade effect on the acceptance of your worship. To pray, you must be in a state of purity (that you acquire since your last shower after the end of the period or after intimacy.) You also must make Wudua to be able to pray.

Manicure creates a barrier on the skin that prevents water from making contact with the nails. You can apply manicure only during your menstrual cycle when it is not required to make contact with water as part of a pre-prayer washup.

Breathable, permeable, halal, Wudu-friendly nail polish does not exist. These terms are merely deceptive marketing tactics, as, from a chemical standpoint, such formulations are not feasible.


Dress and appearance

In Islam, being compliant with our outside appearance is just as important as the purity of our hearts. The heart could never be pure if the appearance is not because the believes that settle in the heart reflect on our actions, words and our appearance. Clothing serves as both a shield and a remedy. If your garments are too short, extend their length; if they are tight, loosen them; if they are overly thin, make them thicker.

For an uncovered woman running a trip to the grocery store and returning, the accumulation of sins is immense. It’s hard to fathom how someone can seek treatment with such a burden of sins—every glance from men results in sin for her, and likewise, for her guardian, father, or husband for each glance directed at her.

Prophet Muhammed said, “Whoever imitates any people, is one of them.Authentic

In Islam, the idea behind wearing the hijab is to do so while one is still young and attractive, rather than waiting until later in life. This is because the hijab is meant to conceal one’s allure, not their signs of aging like gray hair and wrinkles.


Sayyiduna Usamah says, “The Prophet once gifted me a cotton garment [which was made in Egypt]. I gave it to my wife. The Prophet then asked me, ‘Why aren’t you wearing the garment’? I replied, ‘O Prophet, I gave it to my wife to wear.’ The Prophet told me, ‘Order her to wear an undergarment underneath it for I fear that the size of her bone structure could be visible.” Narrated by Ahmed

Allah did not command us to wrap our bodies but rather to cover them. No one can deceive Allah. Immodestly dressed women are the soldiers and tools used by devils to lead men away from Allah. Sure, it might be scorching outside but the Hellfire is much hotter. The heat you may experience from Islamic clothes is your shield against the real burn in the hereafter.

Abu Hurairah said: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, “There are two types of people who will be punished in Hellfire and whom I have not seen: folks who hold whips like the tails of cows and that they beat people with, and women who are dressed but yet naked, they are deviating and deviated; Their heads are like the tilting humps of (Bactrian) camels (referring to styling their hair in public). They will not be admitted to Jannah (Paradise) and they will not smell its fragrance, despite, its fragrance can be smelt from such a far, far distance.” Authentic Hadith in the Book of Muslim.


Prophet of Allah said: “Toward the end of time (closer to the day of judgment), there will be in my nation men, who will ride on saddles that look like haulers. (referring to what we call today cars). They would come off of them at the doors of Masjids (to perform prayers). Their women are dressed, yet naked. On their heads, are the like of frail humps of camels (Bun hair style under the head scarf, to impress). Curse them for indeed, they are already cursed (by Allah).” Authentic Hadith in the book of Ibn Hiban, El-Tabarani, and Al-Albani

Why is immodesty a major sin in Islam?

The issue of immodesty in dress is multifaceted: it is considered a sin for disobeying God, tempting others, and setting a poor example. A woman in Islam should be admired for her character, personality, education, upbringing, values, believes.. but not for her flesh. Her beauty is a trust from God intended only for the pleasure of one man of her choice. Immodestly dressed women lead men to be aroused, which leads them to porn. Porn leads to masturbation. Porn makes men more aggressive and makes females more submissive. Porn leads to shorter intercourse time for men which leaves wives feeling unfulfilled. Porn also incites anal sex and sharing the wife sexually, both of which would hurt women and can lead to divorce. A community that is broken up internally will not succeed in this worldly life or the hereafter. Some men may dislike their wives’ appearance when comparing them to immodestly dressed women. Some men are single and have no outlet, while others are married to wives who have undergone mastectomy due to cancer. Men who feel aroused but unfulfilled tend to develop feelings of disconnecting resentment toward their Lord.

Immodestly dressed women present a negative influence wherever they go, often regarded as tools of Shaitan and typically surrounded by demons. Engaging with them, even without forming a friendship, can expose one to demonic influences that prey on vulnerabilities. It is advisable to avoid interactions with immodestly dressed women, whether while shopping, receiving services, or in social settings.

On the other hand, when a woman stares at another woman with the intention of copying her dress style, Shaytan can make her feel a sense of jealousy that later develops into a sense of inferiority, which then evolves into physical admiration and eventually demands physical engagement or at the very least fanaticizing about it.


Music

Prophet Muhammed (ﷺ) said: “There will be among my followers folks who will act as if unwedded relationships, silk (for men), wine and music, are Islamically permissible.” Authentic – Bukhari


Tattoos, Eyebrow Threading and Hair Extensions

Aban bin Sam’ah narrated that his mother said: “I heard ‘Aishah say: ‘The Messenger of Allah forbade for women to do tattoos and to get it done, to braid hair extensions or to get it done, to thread their eyebrows or to get it done.'” Authentic

Ibn Abbas narrated: “Cursed (by Allah) are women who do tattoos, or get it done, who braid hair extensions, or get it done, who thread their eyebrows, or get it done, when there is no disease to justify it.”


Perfumes

“The Messenger of Allah said: ‘Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, she is then an adulteress.'” Grade Hasan, Sunan Al-Nisa’i


Travel and Company

Prophet Muhammed said, “A woman shall not travel without a Mahram and no man should be alone with her unless she is in the company of her Mahram. A man then asked, “Prophet of Allah, I would like to enlist in the army of such and such, but my wife wants to make Hajj (the pilgrimage)” The Prophet replied “Keep her company” Authentic in Bukhari and Muslim

Mahram/ Mehrim: An adult male guardian for a woman who she is not permitted to marry, like (Father, Grandfather, Father in law, Adult son, Adult grandson, Nephew, Brother, or Uncle) (Coursins, like a brother, or like an uncle, are not acceptable)


Cross gender physical contact

Prophet Muhammad said, “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron pin is better than touching a woman who he is not Islamically permitted to touch.” Authentic


Looks Rules and High Heels

Allah said in the Quran in Chapter Al-Nur verses 30 & 31 “Tell the believing men to restrain their looks, and to guard their privates. That is purer for them. God is cognizant of what they do. And tell the believing women to restrain their looks, and to guard their privates, and not display their beauty except what is apparent thereof, and to draw their coverings over their breasts, and not expose their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, their brothers’ sons, their sisters’ sons, their women, what their right hands possess, their male attendants who have no sexual desires, or children who are not yet aware of the nakedness of women. And they should not strike their feet to draw attention to their hidden beauty. And repent to God, all of you believers, so that you may succeed.”


A Muslim woman is in an act of worship the moment she leaves her house dressed in Islamic attire. Whether she’s shopping, running errands etc, her mere presence in Hijab and modest attire is considered an act worshiping God, for which she is rewarded. Not just that, your mere staying at home with the intention to avoid unnecessary exposure to strange men, is a rewarded act of worship even if you are home running on the treadmill or relaxing on the couch.

What are the 9 requirements for Muslim women dress code:

1- It must cover the entire body except for the face and both hands.
2- The fabric must be opaque, not allowing visibility through it.
3- The fit must be loose, avoiding tightness that outlines the body’s shape.
4- It must be free from elaborate decorations that draw attention.
5- It must not be scented with perfume.
6- It must avoid being standout attire that attracts undue attention.
7- It must not imitate men’s clothing.
8- It must not resemble the attire of non-believers.
9- It must not display crosses or images of beings with souls (like humans or animals).


False marriage

Regardless of whether a woman is a virgin, divorced, or widowed, she is required to seek permission from her male guardian before getting married. Scholars caution against following odd opinions that diverge from the consensus of Muslim scholars. Following such opinions is not a justification, as individuals will be held accountable by Allah on the Day of Judgment for engaging in adultery.

Prophet Muhammed said in authentic narrations:

“No marriage except with the permission of the guardian”

“No woman has the authority to grant another woman permission to get married. No woman has the authority to authorize her own marriage. The adulteress is the one who authorizes her own marriage.”

“A previously married woman must not be married till she is consulted, and a virgin must not be married till her consent is asked.” They asked, “O Allah’s Messenger, how is her consent indicated?” He replied, “It is by her silence.”

It was narrated from Aishah that :
the Messenger of Allah said: “Any woman whose marriage is not approved by her guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid. If (the man) has had intercourse with her, then the dowery belongs to her in return for his intimacy with her. And if there is any dispute then the Muslim ruler is the guardian of the one who does not have a guardian.” Authentic

Can’t I just be like everyone else? All these people can’t be wrong!!

Wrong is wrong, even if everyone is doing it. Right is right, even if no one is doing it. Islam is how Muslims should have been, not exactly how Muslims currently are.

The Creator (Allah) teaches us in various verses of the Quran the following:

  • “But most people do not know” (7:187)
  • “However hard you try, most people will not believe” (12:103)
  • “But few of My servants are grateful” (34:13)
  •  “And most of them do not believe in God unless they associate others” (12:106)
  • “But most of them do not reason” (29:63)
  • “Except for those who believe and do righteous deeds – and few are they” (38:24)
  • “But most people do not believe” is mentioned 13 different times in the Quran.